While this page is called Adoptee Resources, it is also for donor conceived individuals, others with unknown parents, and anyone interested in adoption.
As an adoptee in search for more than 25 years—and a pioneer in the use of DNA testing to find birth parents—I have discovered many useful resources that I am sharing here.
Genetic genealogy DNA tests have helped me—and thousands of others—get around sealed records, lies, and coverups to identify and reunite with biological family members.
See my Finding Lost Family page for details on how this is done.
Five home DNA tests are certainly among the most important adoptee resources. To learn more about each one and see current pricing, click the links.
Outsource Your Search?
Most people will not be lucky enough to immediately match a close relative on any of these DNA tests. If that's you, success is still possible. But you need to dive deeply into both genetic genealogy and conventional genealogy.
See my DNA Education page.
Identifying the common ancestors you share with distant DNA matches and then tracing many families forward in time to identify your birth parent can easily require 100 hours or more.
That's typical for an experienced researcher who already knows what to do.
Learning how to do it yourself will take a lot longer.
If you don’t have that much time—or you’re concerned about birth parents passing away before you find them—you should consider outsourcing your search.
You can hire a professional genealogist from companies such as Legacy Tree Genealogists and Ancestry Pro Genealogists.
Sadly, some cases are not solvable by anyone. That's why I strongly recommend Origins International for birth parent searches. They will quote you a fixed price. And if they can't find your birth parent in 90 days, you get your money back.
I am aware of many successful searches at Origins. Click here to request a free case review. There's no obligation.
Adoptee Resources on Facebook
My Facebook Groups page includes many groups focused on genetic genealogy. Since DNA testing is such a powerful tool for finding birth families, these are important adoptee resources.
In addition, there are dozens of Facebook groups that focus specifically on adoptees, adoption, or similar topics.
I list the more active adoptee groups below in four categories.
Be aware that some groups fit more than one category. Within each category these adoptee resources are listed in alphabetical order.
Note that NPE stands for Not the Parent Expected and MPE stands for Misattributed Parentage Experience.
Adoptee Search Groups
Adoption Search & Reunion
AmerAsian DNA: A Search for Fathers (DNA Detectives)
Donor Conceived People, Siblings, Parents, And Donors (Sperm, Egg, Embryo)
The ALMA Society
The Guardian Search Angels
Unknown Fathers DNA (DNA Detectives)
Adoptee Support Groups
Adopted Adults Support Group
Adoptees Only: Found/Reunion The Next Chapter
DNA Surprises Support Group
Forum for Late-Discovery Adoptees
I Am Adoption
MPE Jewish Identity Surprise
MPE: Cross Cultural Connections
NPE Only: After the Discovery
We Are Donor Conceived
Adoption Discussion Groups
Adoptees, NPEs, Donor Conceived & Other Genetic Identity Seekers
Conversations about Adoption
DNA Detectives Social
Late Discovery Adoptees & Family
Adoption Reform Groups
Adoption Community "Field of Dreams" USA - ONE VOICE
Adoption Truth and Transparency Worldwide Information Network
ALARM - Advocating Legislation for the Adoption Reform Movement
Finding Family: My Search for Roots and the Secrets in My DNA
The DNA Guide for Adoptees
The Adoptees Guide to DNA Testing
Adoptee Survival Guide
Adoption Reunion in the Social Media Age
American Baby: A Mother, a Child, and the Shadow History of Adoption
Before and After
My Unspeakable Loss
The Lost Family
More books at Adoptee Reading
Useful Adoption Websites
American Adoption Congress
International Child Search Alliance (China)
National Association of Adoptees and Parents
Original Birth Certificates: State-By-State Access
State Adoption Access
Selected Blog Posts
“Ask Amy” Got It Right
Lessons for Adoptees with Unknown Parentage
Letter to a Birth Parent
Plea from adoptee to first mothers in the closet: Give us a chance
Tips for Families Searching for Adoptees
Adoptees Gaining Access to Original Birth Certificates
Adoption Wars Continue Online
After A DNA Surprise: 10 Things No One Wants to Hear
Another Type of Secret Revealed by DNA Tests
Are You Keeping a Secret About Your Child's Birth?
Despite Mixed Results, South Asian Adoptees Turn To DNA Tests To Find Relatives
DNA Databases Uniting American Veterans with Long-lost Children
Donor-conceived people are tracking down their biological fathers, even if they want to hide
Italian Adoptees Using DNA to Find Birth Families
Navigating Family DNA Surprises, A Guide for Healthcare Providers
Rights of adoptees deserve a larger conversation
Sperm Donors Can No Longer Remain Anonymous
The Coalition for Genetic Truth
The Woman Who Stole 5,000 Babies
Tips to Help You Prepare Before an in-Person Meeting With DNA Relatives
When a DNA Test Shatters Your Identity